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Photo of The Week X3

The Stunning and Beautiful Dirty Martini

Sheesh …. When was this photo taken? I know it was in a Club off the beat and track in Brooklyn. Must have been far, as I took a car service there and it was very late. It has to be after 2001, as I was visiting NYC after having moved back to Seattle. What I do remember….  is Dirty Martini, Julie Atlas Muz and Lady Ace tearing it up on a stage made of a pool table and some rickety ass stairs that got them on and off the damn thing! These images remind me of a photo I’ve seen of Marinka, I’ll have to ask her for it and see if I can share it with you.

I am realizing I feel paralyzed without a camera (damn the ass who stole my Vivienne Westwood handbag two weeks ago), I will just have to bite the bullet and buy another one so I can keep documenting my life as well as others! Hope you enjoy this blast from the past!

Julie Atlas Muz in “Death of a Show Girl”

Lady Ace

September 11, 2010

I was living in Fort Greene Brooklyn on September 11, 2001, I hardly ever talk about that day and for an opinionated and outspoken person like myself that is saying a lot.

What I want to share about that day nine years ago, is that it’s magnitude and horror just became surreal to me and affirmed that deep down I am a pacifist. I would never wish upon anyone else what I saw or felt that day or the trying days that followed. Through that event I understood just a portion of what others have been victim too and I was humbled.

I turned off my TV that morning as the spin doctors began to weave the web we are entangled in now. Nine years later the ripple effects of this man made disaster has created a Tsunami of Hate and Fear.

That day I chose not to watch in person what I knew only had one possible out come. Instead I went home and sat in silence and begged the universe to let it end here and now. No more Hate, No more War. These are flames I will not feed. Put Love out to this world today and carry hope in your heart. It’s a great day to remember all the beauty this life brings!

I was moved by this story in the New York Times today “Muslims and Islam Were Part of Twin Towers’ Life”. It seems many Americans have lost site that American Muslims suffered loss that day too, we all need to heal!

I am delighted that I could help facilitate the screening of  “Arias with a Twist”: The Docufantasy at The Three Dollar Bill Cinemas : Seattle Lesbian & Gay Film Festival- October 16th at The Egyptian Theater. This film Premièred at The Berlin Film Festival in January and was screened at the Tribecca Film Festival in May. I am so excited to have it here in Seattle this Fall while Joey Arias and Eliot Douglas are making their annual “Strange Fruit” appearance at The Triple Door October 12th, as part of my Gilded Stage season. Joey will be staying on to attend the screening and participate in a Q & A after the film.

“Arias with a Twist”: The Docufantasy is about the collaboration of Joey Arias and Basil Twist , and their creation of the International Award winning stage production “Arias with a Twist” and a biography of the artist themselves.  The film was made by my friend Bobby Sheehan of Working Pictures, and it is his “ love letter to the arts and to the creative spirit that endures in artists like Joey Arias and Basil Twist”.  Bobby grew up on New York City’s Lower East Side in the 70’s with his single teen Mom and knows the courage of people living outside the box first hand. “Arias with a Twist” : The Docufantasy  “ is a tribute to all those people who somehow survive, create, entertain and inspire despite, or maybe because of, what life throws their way.”

Please enjoy this trailer from the documentary:

More information will be available about cross promotional tickets for these events soon.

This beautiful poster was made by Scott Ewalt.

Part two Days of Glamour

Wednesday another very full and special day, I finally felt like going out and dressing up since I got here last week. The day started with a photo shoot with Karl Giant at noon. Ever since I saw the images of The World Famous BoB and Julie Atlas Muz, I knew I wanted to experience first hand what this very talented man does with a face, make up, some lights, and a few hours. I love the look he created with me and I look forward to sharing the images when I have them. We carried on until it was 4, we had such fun talking and getting to know each other and working on his vision, he even pulled out the two Wind King fans, and it felt very Scavulo.

After the shoot I headed back to the East Village in full face and proceeded to stop traffic and put smiles on old ladies faces in the neighborhood. As I walked down 10th street between 2nd and 1st I notice a woman whom I am fearful of, not of her, but for her, the existence she is living out. She is wearing a pair of knee length shorts no belt so that they are hanging below her butt cheeks, she has no underwear, very home boy style or what ever that is (I never really got that fashion statement) but here she is flaunting this look with more authenticity and sincerity than I have ever seen. No shoes, and I what I think is a very thin bra strap. Her matted hair is pulled back in a rather lumpy messy ponytail. She is on a mission, one that I will see played out in just seconds. She is only a few feet from me when she in a very matter of fact way pulls down her pants and takes what appears to be a very much-needed pee. I could feel the relief as her urine splashes out of her bladder, spraying her pants and thighs, she is standing in her puddle and flashing the unsuspecting or involentatry audience her generous red bush of pubic hair. The contrast of her and me on that sidewalk are not lost to me, and I just digest this intimate moment and the profound profanity of it all, how sad our world has become, and well maybe she is just very old school and I have a false sense of what humanity is.

I needed to eat before the rest of the events of the evening so I headed over to the yummy Italian resultant Orologio and have some Chicken cacciatore and sewed on a few more black snaps on the gorilla suit, I had liberated from El Vez’s closet earlier in the week, that I would be prancing out of later in the evening at The Bowery Poetry Club event -Surf Burlesque, hosted by the lovely and charming Jo Boobs.

After my meal I went back to my friend Tom’s apartment (where I have been staying) to change and pack up for the night’s events. I realize I cannot zip myself into my fringe dress, so I have to wait until I get to Scott Ewalt’s loft on the Bowery (the unofficial NY Museum of Times Square, Male Strip Clubs and Burlesque) to get into my dress for the Mao Magazine Party. This issue of Mao is very close to my heart as it includes an article on John Sex with whom I collaborated with as a performer and as a producer. I had him out to Seattle a few times for some very exciting shows back in the late 80′s. The poster for his first time out (was designed by Dennis White also known as White Boy International) won the best poster design by The Rocket in 198?!?!? Something. This issue also includes two great sources of inspiration Amanda Lear and Liz Renay, who I am very, privileged to also call a friend. Scott Ewalt did many of the images for this magazine as well many of the previous issues, but your gonna LOVE Amanda in this issue!

The party… Scott, Michael and I arrive and as we get out of our taxi we see Davis Burns riding his bycle down the street in some causal gear. I have not seen him since we were all in Tokyo at the same time and ended up at The Barneys opening party, I was there with Joey Arias singing back up vocals for him with Tony Frere. The date!?! I just remember that David gave us shade and seemed inconvienced that we were there and were other westerners to share the exotic foreign spot light with. What ever. we saunter right in. It is always nice to be with the right people at these kinds of events. We are flocked, well maybe not flocked but at least held up by 4 or 5 photographers who want to take our image for whatever publication they are selling to. I can’t help but think how annoying it must be to have this be a regular occurrence and how tiresome it could become. But for right now I just take it in, try to be accommodating, and enjoy it.

The creme de la creme of the NYC glamour brigade has been recruited to be beach girl pin ups. And what a beach party it is with Dirty Martini, The World Famous BoB, Julie Atlas Muz and a pretty girl who I don’t know who she is. They are bouncing beach balls in bathing suits and it is a reminder that summer is coming to a close.

There is great video of John Sex and photo collages of 80′s NYC club scenes. I feel like I am at a reunion but as the evening progresses it transitions into a feeling of communion.
More and more familiar faces from the past come into this room as I am sipping champagne and taking it all in. Bodacious Ta ta’s Myra, April Palamari are in attendance, Katy K is conspicuously not there and you can feel the space that she is not standing in. I spot Basil Twist speaking to Johnny Dynell, I am very much in anticipation to see his performance later with Joey Arias. Silvia a Miles, and Larissa, are comforting sights they are the Grand Dames and Matriarch Denizens of the 80′s NY I knew and experienced. Much to my delight Craig Vandenberg is sitting on a bench, last time I saw him was at a Tom Of Finland Party Art show in LA several years ago. He has stage 4 cancer and is literally 1/3 of the man he has been but his smile and personality are as large as ever, so is the rock hanging around his neck, big as my fist. Craig is a downtown institution. So many familiar faces I start to see ghosts, Tom Rubizts, Houi Montauk to name a few this is where the evening became communion for me, so many friends and acquaintances from the last 20 years of my life all in their party best and looking fan-fucking-tastic. The energy is great and that is when Joey starts to perform. He looks Stunning! And the band is 12′ height and made out of wood, and dressed to the nines .I recognize the horn player as Harry James. They are the puppets that Basil Twist’s Grandfather had commissioned in the 30′s. They are astounding, well dressed and full of expression! Joey Ãrias interaction with the band is truly magical and we are all children watching wide-eyed and full of wonder.. I look across the front row, Bill Cunningham is swept away and you can see the glee on his face, Isabelle Toledo has her hands in prayer in front of her face and brightly smiling, Dirty Martini is on the floor wide eyes with wonder but manages to save the day when the miniature piano player loses his instrument in the heat of his wild playing. Really everyone is a child at this sight. My eyes are leaking and soaking in what I know will be a legendary night where so many of us were in together room, filled with joy and celebration. We are all part of a very special NY past and even thought we were not all friends we were all there and some how all of us together was a communion of art, creativity, and living history of what is left of the underground counter culture.
I cannot possibly name all the names of the people who were there. It was fun it was fabulous and the energy was lovely and the spirit in the room was charged and took me back to a happier time in early 82 when we were are still carefree and expressing our wild selves all over the place with our caution.

I had to leave and there were so many people to talk to and more tasty champagne to sip but leave I must to don the gorilla suit and pop out! Off to the Bowery Poetry Club we go. The timing is perfect I get in and change into Ginger! I have just enough time. I had fun toying with Gorilla Bob, playing with his hair, as I was being Girlilla just before I transform into Ginger! Irony always has a seat at my table.
After I am done I sneak out to watch the very sick and amazing group act that Jo has choreographed for her students Bells Of the Bowery. It is to Aqualung by the mad flautist himself, Jethro Tull. They are homeless bobos and Jo looks suspiciously like Charlie Manson, my favorite part is where they take off their raincoats and have fringing bottoms and bras on with full beards! It is So pervy!
They do a synchronized chair dance and it is very entertaining and disturbingly sexy.

After the show Scott Michael, Loren, Nadine and I end up getting a bite to eat and then on to the little Casaba on Avenue A between 10th an 11th and have a few glasses of wine, mint tea and even a puff or two of the apple hookah. Well the girls are all that are left at this point. What a charming evening.

I get to sleep despite the constant bombardment of the mosquitoes! I try to make a tent out of my top sheet to fend them away.

Thursday I take care of a lot of errands that I am not excited to deal with, as they really have nothing to do with me, I am being some ones bitch so to say and feel full of resentment. I visit for a while with Julie Atlas Muz at her new home and enjoy the view. From there I head up to the Christopher Henry Gallery to see the Ves Pitts show that my new friend Paul is a subject in. On the way there I notice how beautiful the full moon is hanging in the eastern sky like a big fat tangerine over the Brooklyn skyline. As I take in the beauty of the night I remember that The Williamsburgh Savings Bank tower has been converted into yet another luxury condominium, just a few years ago it was the last bank in the city of NY that would open a checking account for children. Yes, Brooklyn is part of the city know as NY. The bank it self is destined to be a fancy restaurant. What is happening to this city? How many condos and restaurants can this place support? And how many dorm rooms does NYU really need to build? What exactly is the enrollment for that fucking university anyway, and how many students do they really need to accommodate? I digress!!!!

I took a taxi as I was running late the traffic was horrid going down 23rd. There is a bus inform of us with an advertisement for Tarzan the new Disney Musical. I can’t help but think to myself “Now that’s a winner!” Finally the cab gets across town and we head up 10th Avenue there are reader board that informs the public that the use of fake ID is a crime. I find it odd but figure that there must be allot of under age people in this part of town.

I get to the gallery and the show is amazing! I love the work; it is dark, sexy and draws on so many cultural under ground references. Kind of thrilling to think that there are social groups that have not yet been commercialized!

It is warm out, almost sultry; I am invited to have dinner with Paul his roommate Blue, and Daisy Shaver a radical Fairy. I head out with them but decided that I need to go off into the night on my own, and later call Loren to see if she would care to join me at the little Italian restaurant we like so much in the east village. She does and off we go, once again it takes us forever to find it, it is as if the restaurant lives in a porthole and moves around. After much discussion and deductive reasoning and weaving back and forth between avenues a, b, c, and d and 1st, 2nd, 3rd and 4th street we find it swearing that we will never forget it’s location, but I bet we do.

We have a feast and then I walk back to Loren’s and get to see her most fantastic shoe collection. In her front room or salon she has a glass front cabinet filled with beautiful shoes. All are very sexy, none of them are sensibly heeled, many are from the Little Shoe Box in London, and some from are gifts or from various thrift and vintage shops in NYC over the years. There are black and pale pink patent leather and suede and alligator patchwork. The mid boggles at the beauty before me. We discuss the shoes for quite awhile and off we go to collect her bionic dog for a late night promenade under a full moon. We wander and end up back at our new local casaba and talk till three in the morning once again.

Then it’s back to Tom’s (who had damaged himself playing kick ball, and was unable to drive his sore ass back to town while I was there) to pack and get ready to leave town. I run a few errands in the morning have lunch with my psychic heir dresser (I will save that story for another time) and see Andy for the last time and head out to JKF the car goes through Williamsburg, as I want to get to JFK via Atlantic Avenue and North Conduit, it is the fastest and cheapest way to get there (my fare was $28 at 4 in the afternoon).

I love going through Williamsburg it feels like time travel, the Hassidic young girls in their 1930′s style dresses and little boys in suits and there parent equally held in a different time. Even the store fronts are of another era, I always say to myself that I will take the time to spend a day here walking around and going to all these shops, well that is if they would let a goyim like myself in. I wonder how long they can keep up this lifestyle, Hassidism only came into being in the 1800′s, will it be diluted and fade way into the past like so many other distinct lifestyles. I have been back in Seattle for almost two weeks and have managed to barely do nothing but attend a few band rehearsals and do two shows at the Pink Door. I have not felt myself and seem to be in mourning. I really need to shake it soon figuratively and literally, as I look at my calendar of events and there is a lot to live up to in the next few months!

11 September

Five years ago today the world became a different place for me and all of you.
We can’t even fly with our own bottle of water. Truth be told our quality of life has been far more compromised than that. Today I grieve all that we have lost, our freedom of speech and civil liberties are at the top of my list, and what saddens me the most is that is all been imposed by our tyrannical god fearing corporate prostitutes known as the bush administration. Remember to VOTE!

Friday night I have a quite dinner with Scott and his boyfriend Michel at Village Restaurant a charming low-key delicious place to eat, where I have been going for several years thanks to Kim Hastreiter. I was delighted to learn on this visit was a frequent haunt of Mae West, funny how we unknowingly and naturally gravitate to these cultural hot spots, the bar had been all dressed up for celebrating her Birthday August 20th, as it turns out she lived up stairs and patronized this location when it was Paul & Joe’s a gay cabaret. It inspired Mae to write her controversial play “THE DRAG,” a work that kicked New York’s legal machinery into gear on 9 February 1927. Mae spent that evening in Jefferson Market Police Court and was forced to stay overnight in Jefferson Market Jail. I was told she used many of the drag performers from that bar in her play.

Saturday morning I met up with Lori aka Leroi The Girl Boi and her girlfriend Nash for breakfast and to head up to The Met to see the Anglomaina show before it closed. I apologized to Lori for not having made it out to her performance at the Friday night opening party for the NYBF. She was understanding and told me about he performance and shared what she felt were some of the highlights, Rosewood and Bambi the Mermaid in her new Lobster Act inspired by the passing of her late husband Larry. We had a sweet visit and caught up on life while eating at Mogador. Four men who were of some Middle Eastern origin were sharing a great looking meal of cous cous with lamb, as I got up I felt the need to share with them that their meal looked tasty, their reply was that I looked pretty tasty myself. I felt appreciate of that, as my eyes were inevitably puffy from crying over our loss of Adam. As we walked out from breakfast I decided I was not in the right frame of mind or ready to perform so I called Angie Pontani to ask her to pull me out of the line up for the Festival that night. I felt badly, but instantly relieved and knew I had made the right decision. Nash, Lori and I head up to The Met after picking up a supply of their favorite teas and coffee at some purveyors of such on Saint Marks on the south side of the street that I was too in a daze to make note of what it was called. It was raining again as it had been since Friday night and it was no ordinary rain this was a deluge, the residue of a tropical storm. As we move on a Big Apple Tour Bus drives up 1st Avenue and the people on the top in the open car were shrouded in deposable rain coats with hoods that made them eerily appeared like a fleet of Grand Wizards of the KKK or would that be gaggle?

The Anglomania show was enchanting and beautiful; though it felt  it was badly lit. Maybe my 46 year old eyes don’t take in the light like they used to, but it was very murky and I felt I was missing out on quite a few details due to the lack of lighting. The wigs were amazing, just what I have been looking for, for a new act I have been developing since last October that requires a Madam de Pompadour coif. Westwood was gorgeous as ever and the Mohawks were over the top, they were made of tampons, cigarettes, newspaper, shoe soles and so on. I was told later that the show was censored and it made me curious what they took out. Maybe that will be revealed in the catalogue that is to come out in October, rather odd as the show closed this last Sunday. I guess someone missed his or her deadline? There were several stunning images, like the Raven ball gown vignette, hunting scene, and foppish and stately men’s wear. It was a very small show and I could have seen several more rooms of displays. The take was a juxtaposition of old and modern Anglo fashion, mixed in with antique Anglomania furniture and knickknacks. Maybe it was the time period that inspired the lighting but I still feel it should have been brighter.

When we left the rain was sideways and quite dramatic the girls headed downtown and I over to wander down Madison Avenue in the down pour to look for some new pants, a coat and possibly some shoes, as I have not packed correctly for this trip and will have nothing to wear that is dry at this rate or that is warm enough for this challenging weather. But I have to admit I did find the dramatic weather satisfying as it fit my inner broody mood.

As I had decided to not perform that night it meant I could attend the going away party for my old friend John Kelly who is leaving town to go paint in Rome for 10 months, he was awarded the Rome scholarship to The American Academy in Rome. He will be working on a series inspired by Caravaggio. The last time I was in NYC in May we had had lunch at the Cupping Room (another old haunt that was around the corner from the loft I moved into in the late fall of 82 on Canal Street) and he was waiting to hear if he had been accepted. I suggested that he write into his stipend a budget for hustlers as Caravaggio had often used street urchins and hustler as his models, it would put an authentic twist to the whole thing. We discussed Brian Butterick and Kestutis Nakas book project about The Pyramid Club and I expressed how I would love to help facilitate a reunion of use remaining cast of characters. We could share photos and tape interviews and help rekindle memories that are buried deep inside our craniums, ahh but I am getting distracted once again.

I arrived at the party around 8:30 it was at The Chelsea at his friend Scott apartment. (I lived at The Chelsea when I first moved to NYC in the summer of 82 when I was attending classes at ICP before I enrolled there full time later that fall.) The lobby has changed over the years and is more cram packed with art and the lighting is much brighter. I head up to the 9th floor and into a beautiful apartment with an impressive collection of modern photography included several pieces by the man who created “Piss Christ” whose name escapes me at the moment. One is of the Virgin Mary and Jesus and the other The Infant of Prague, and a fascination large format photo of a nude woman holding a horse cock, after a pee I assume. Several of John’s friends are in attendance all who are of interest in their own right as artists, producers, publishers, creative directors, directors, opera singers, fellow performance artists and a few of Scott’s friends are tossed in. I notice that Scott has a Rene Ricard on the wall and inquire if they are friends, it turns out that they are and that Rene may actually come down and join in the party later (he lives a few floors up) I am quite excited by this as I have not seen him in person for many years, quite possibly the last time was at Terence Sellers, when she still had her apartment on Spring Street, that could easily be 10 years ago. John and I catch up and talk about his impeding journey. In the dining room area the bar is set up and there are a few things to nibble, mac & cheese, and two stacks of White Castle burgers one stack with cheese one without. It is here that I meet John’s friend Paul who is in the midst of discussing what happened to the leather scene in NYC, and I am all ears, we hit if off, right off the bat and spent much of the evening discovering the many mutual connections we have included Rick Castro who we are both working on up coming exhibits with, Paul’s- Modern Heretics, mine -Burlesque.

Back in the living room I speak with two women who travel to Seattle frequently to work with the Seattle Opera one as a director the other a singer, me being the wretch I am, cannot remember their names and I will have to shoot John an e-mail to correct that. On the baby grand piano I see a copy of Claudio Edinger’s book Chelsea Hotel and flip through it. He was staying at the Chelsea the same time I was ( 1982) , he actually shot some pictures of me that apparently ended up on a dark room floor. It seems like this whole trip is about reminiscing and remembering the many different time periods I have shared with NY. The photo’s get me thinking about Rene again so I ask Scott about where I need to go to scare him up, Scott is still talking to the women whose names I cannot recall which leads to us trying to describe Rene to them. It did not go well and they seem skeptical of the value and of my fascination with what I consider a genius of man who lives a debauched hedonistic life, chasing rough trade taggers, who has a considerable drug habit, is a art critic, poet and artist of his own right. I love Rene and quite fondly remember the times in the 80′s when we would head over to The Eagle very late at night to shoot pool and drink more. He always said I was good bait, but I digress; so I get Rene’s apartment number and go see if I can coax Rene out of his cavern.

I arrive at his door and it is classic Ricard! There are several notes taped to his door and the floor, of course I read them as they are not in envelopes (that seems some what legitimate), the one on the door is an apology, the ones on the floor pertain to some film shoot he is supposed to be at and details of call times and such. But it was the sounds coming from the other side of the door that were so Rene to me, wild caterwauling meets vocalizing, and the moths that keep circling around and around. I ponder what state he is in and if I am game to interact in his for the time being, private madness. I decide yes, I knock and I knock and I tell him it is me, I wait and I wait and I knock but I am unable to distract him or gain his attention from his private world of what sounds rather hellish at the moment.

I want to share one of my favorite poems by Rene from “God With Revolver”.

LAUNDRY

We fucked
so much
everything
I own has
come stains

I return back down stairs and announce my defeat.
I spend the rest of the evening curled up on a sofa with John and Paul talking and laughing. Paul gave John one of his eggs that is made in the style he learned from, if I remember correctly, his Ukrainian Grand mother. He has added to the process several layers of lacquer and fills the eggs with sand. It is very satisfying to hold the egg, the weight, the smoothness and the sound that it makes when you gently shake it. Paul invites me to an opening on Thursday for the artist Vess Pitts who he has modeled for.

Monday I wander around and incidentally meet up with Joey Arias on a street corner, I feel like I was guided to him. He introduces me to his hairdresser Steven Knoll who I have been hearing about for so long. They are discussing Joey’s haircut that he is to have the following day. It seems like haircuts are a theme this week too. Several of the people I encounter this week have cut off considerable amounts of hair including myself. Joey and I take a stroll through the West Village and run into Justin Bond who is enjoying a much-needed day off from his show that is now on Broadway, and causing a considerable stir. He shares with us how his mother is handling all the media attention that Justin is receiving and the accusations of blasphemy against the church and so on, and how she is negotiating the political waters with her old friends and very conservative neighbors down in the D.C. area.

Later I meet up with Andy Reynolds and we sit in Tompkins Park and visit and then later walk over to 9th and C to meet Adam’s parents who are just outside of his, I guess former apartment. It is rather odd and more odd than I feel is polite to get into now. His parents are lovely and we learn to what extent Adam’s pre existing heart condition has played into his far to early death. It does help to know why Adam is gone, but does not really make it any easier accept. I think that makes sense? We walk them over to A7 where they are meeting Micky and Bruce, we all decided that we need to have a celebration of Adam and his contributions to our lives and settle on early November so his friends across the pond can be part of it too. Andy and I spend the rest of the evening watching “The Killing” and “Sudden Fear”.

Tuesday night I briefly stop by Happy Valley where Sister Dimension is giving a performance. Billy Beyond was a barker for the very burlesque meets drag performance that Sister gave, it was quite entertaining and lasted about 10 – 15 minutes. There was a whole tribe of the new young kids on the block, out for this long awaited performance, it has been about 10 years since Sister has done a full on act, it was also Sister’s Birthday and several if the who’s who of our generation are in attendance, well the ones who have returned from their late summer hiatuses out in the Hampton’s, Fire Island, or Province Town. The young creatures of the night were turned out in tribal desert glamour, head shrouds and wraps, with sunglasses and prefect makeup. I dash out after his performance and proper adulation and head back to Tom’s. I wonder if I am going to see Tom on this trip, as he keeps delaying his return from P-Town, everyday he has a new reason not to come back.

Adam Goldstone

September 5th 2006

I came to NYC last Wednesday to participate in the Fourth New York Burlesque Festival; a few hours into Manhattan I received a phone call that changed the nature of my trip. I was informed that my very dear friend Adam Goldstone had died at Burning Man. After grappling with my emotions and shock I decided not to participate in the festival as I was/am profoundly saddened by the loss of this bright soul and chose to spend quality time with many of my other dear friends in NYC and remember Adam and reflect on life.

Five years ago this week Adam literally danced into my life on the dance floor at the opening party of “Daddy” Adorable, dashing, and a witty flirt he had my attention right off the bat. Adam has been many things to me in these last five years, a lover, muse, collaborator, and editor, to name a few. That first week was a full of excitement and tragedy -911. We all know how strange and hard that was and I will leave it at that.

Adam was always supportive and caring “well” and sarcastic and sparring, I will miss him greatly. Because of his artist support and egging me on, he inspired me (and James Hillard too) to create Topsey Von Jekyll my drag persona that was the springboard into my current burlesque career. In 2001 Topsey performed in NYC at PTM (Princess Tiny Meat) and Escuelita. Due to complications with his flight out of SF on Jet Blue Adam could not make it to Topsey’s debut at PTM held at The Slipper Room, he was furious and never flew with Jet Blue again.

He has introduced me to many wonderful people including Andy Reynolds, James Hillard, Micky, Bruce Tantum, Ken Terry, Harmonica Sunbeam, Nancy and Phil just to name a few new and we found had many friends in common so the web just got a little tighter after that first dance. Adam was generous with what he had and loved his friends.

In May, Adam and I co produced a benefit on behalf of Harmonica Sunbeam held at Love. Due to obligations in Seattle and being in the final leg of producing the Exotic World 2006 contest and Friday Night Meet and Greet in Las Vegas I was unable to remaining NY for the benefit and sadly May was the last time I saw Adam. We had lunch at Life Cafe (the food was terrible and had fun making up stories about the couple sitting at the table a few feet away from us, catching up, taking pictures of each other with our telephones, and his telling me even more about his new found love, Burning Man. Though I found it truly bizarre that he was so moved by Burning Man it totally makes sense when I think about his is deep political distain for corporations and commercialism and love of a memorable party. I am happy that he was somewhere that was so profoundly inspiring to him when he departed our reality.

The thought of him camping in a tent on the playa wearing an neckerchief or ascot, Paul Smith socks and ankle-revealing trousers only puts a great big smile on my face.

I loved his irreverence and vanity and when it was shared with me that what was more than likely his last words; they were about the selection of trousers that someone (I still don’t know who) was trying to put on him to take him to the medic tent” No, No, Those simply won’t do!” It made me smile again.

I could write volumes about Adam and his antics and inspirations. I will miss our phone conversations and visits, dancing to his music, but mostly his friendship and very special laugh.

I would have loved to know him as an old man.

World AIDS Day

Dear Diary,

Today is World AIDS Day and I find particular irony about this as I just found out that one of my cats has FIV -Feline AIDS, not even cats are safe in this world.

Usually I don’t really talk about this subject, but I guess today is the day for me to do that. If you have ever read my bio you will see that I refer to myself, as a “survivor of the East Village 80′s” and what I mean when I say that, is I literally survived the bio warfare of AIDS on that community. It was also prevalent in the community I became a part of when I moved back to in Seattle in 86. I spent my late 20′s and early 30′s going to funerals.

I have never been an IV drug user, but some of my friends were, but most of the people I knew would seroconvert because of sexual contact. We did have a lot of fun back then and there was a lot of cross-pollination so to say, but it took its toll as we all know. I lost most of my very dear friends from this time period including a few lovers and my husband and father of my child. They were some of the most brilliant and talented people I have ever had the pleasure to meet and they continue to inspire me creatively and spiritually.

Our communities became grief stricken and I know many still suffer greatly from the magnatude of loss; I miss all the bright and vibrant people that have passed on. At times I feel lonely and guilty for still being alive. No one experiences loss on that level without some sort of spiritual trauma and epiphany. I became depressed, angry, and withdrawn, I didn’t want to meet new people, but I grew and learned to appreciate the gift of life so much more, as I understand all too well how temporal it all is. I now feel is it my job and responsibility to bring love, beauty, joy, support, respect and tolerance into this world, and do all the things my friends no longer can. It has become my job to help combat all the hatred and fear which is all too prevalent in this world. When I think of our the current political situation with its’ fundamentalist leanings, I get sick to my stomach and get on-line to see who I can lobby to protect us freedom loving, nature caring, compassionate people including the plants and animals! Hey we all live on the same place.

I used to be very active in fundraising for AIDS organizations and education, but I became overloaded emotionally. But before I did you could find me handing out bleach and condoms at the bars I worked in. When emceeing shows I would pull out condoms wanting to encourage people to have fun and play with them, I would pull them over my head to demonstrate how much they really could accommodate to dispel the myth that “my dick is too big for a condom”. People who do not practice safe sex are selfish and are not worthy of sharing you physically; well that is my opinion any way. The good side to all of this is that I have seen many people in my community become more responsible, sincere, compassionate and caring in how they deal with each other and their sexuality. We have learned from a very high price that there are consequences.

I have deep gratitude that the medical field has made some advances to help those who continue to live with HIV and AIDS; I have a handful of friends who are here right now because of it. It must be hard for them living an existence of eating pills, but I am thankful that we can still spend time together. There were a few dark times for me when announcements would come out about new drugs and all I could think about was, it is all too little too late! But my heart is more open these days with appreciation.

I want to spend this day remembering and thinking about what joy these people gave me, and how I can best honor them by living a good and conscientious life!

There is a little fear in naming names, as I am sure I will overlook someone. But here are a few of the people who were near and dear to me and have made a life long impression-

Michael Norman aka Tanya Ransom, Dan Haight, Ethyl Eichelberger, Wilfredo, Larry Ray aka Madame,John Sex, Lari Shox, Klaus Nomi, Bobby Bradley, Huck Snyder,Ann Craig, Darrick Saffery, Justin Odo, Chuck Smith, Brian Damage, Charles Garrish aka Up Chuck, Tom Rubnitz, Tron Von Hollywood, Howie Montague, Mark Oats, Rolf, Chris, Tom, John, Dominick, and there are so many more.

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